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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - it’s not a sn school (he does not qualify for one) but they do have an entirely social emotionally focused curriculum.

I don’t mind that they are calling me I kind that I don’t know what to do or what they expect of me beyond what I’m already doing of which they are aware [/quote]

Do you think his life beyond primary school will be better or worse for having been part of the social emotionally focused curriculum? I'm very surprised at how fragile many of these responses are (take him out of the school!). It sounds like you did a great job finding a school.that will help him to make it in the neurotypical world more readily. The things he has been "accused" of are very minor things. He's not calling people bad names (but he will learn to in public school which is a daily roast fest), he isn't physical (but there are daily fist fights in public school), he's just being a kid whose edges are very mildly rougher than his peers. It's just not a big deal. The stress is coming from the school expecting you to put a stop to what they deem as problems. Are they aware of his disabilities?

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op - I dont know. in some ways the social emotional curriculum of the school is great. Like having therapy woven INTO your school programme. But in other ways being at a super progressive school who are focused on that piece is a spotlight on dc. So for example things that he has done that have ended in notes home like the comment about being held back, last year he tagged a kid too hard and the kid cried, yesterday he made a joke about putin to a kid with russian heritage - these things might go unseen at public but they are a BIG deal at this school. Idk if that is good or bad. But I do know that 'fixing' that and 'stopping' him feels maybe like being set up to fail. We talk often about kindness and perspective taking and he understands all of that but isn't always able to access it in the moment. Today i found myself saying 'dont try to be funny' which also feels awful! agree also with those who caution that too much scrutiny is bad. I also think a fresh start with a bigger school and new group of kids would maybe be good, but maybe he will make the same missteps there. although maybe there there will be other kids who are also socially misfiring and he can find his people? I really dont know. but a lot of these responses are helpful[/quote]

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