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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Part of it is they’re trying to make you decide he’s not a fit. And it sounds like he’s not. [/quote]
This. They can’t outright oust him so they are wearing you down in hopes to do it yourself. I point blank told our school that whatever they hope I will say to my child, we already say every single day, and I don’t want to be bothered about non-violent and minor things my child says. [/quote]

To a parent it might seem minor. To the school, having potentially ten or more kids DC is upsetting (and ten parents complaining to teacher about your kid) with each incident - well it’s not so minor.  People pay for private expecting the school to not tolerate this kind of behavior and address the situation.[/quote]

Nail on the head. If I'm paying for my well behaved kid to attend a private school and they're coming home and telling me one kid is consistently causing disruptions and derailing class, I'd be pissed. Especially at age 10. I'd be more tolerant of it in early elementary but by 4th/5th grade it's time to get with the program or explore other options. Especially if he's been at the same school with the same kids for 4-5 years, I'm sure they're all over it too. [/quote]

Pp what sn does your child struggle with that has never impacted any other child? [/quote]

I find the prior "well-behaved kid" PPs post offensive -- my kid is SN and other parents clearly didn't like him even though he didn't do things that were bad (just impulsive, interrupts conversation, etc.).  I found it ironic that the Mom of the "well-behaved" popular kid that disliked him the most was the Mom of the kid who was actively showing porn to other kids on the school bus on the way home from school. And, another parent's kid was the school pot dealer.  And many others were parents of kids who had alcohol problems, sexual assault history, etc.  And then there were a couple of kids who regularly used the N word and shot bb guns with my kid on a playdate in ES. (I had know idea the household had any guns, let alone accessible ones.) My kid will interrupt an adult who's talking, maybe say something rude, but he's never done any of the things the neurotypical kids above have done.

Neurotypical kids do neurotypical things that are not "well-behaved". I grew up in a wealthy suburban DMV neighborhood - even the best private schools or catholic schools are no haven - we know many kids at private schools who have guns, and are outwardly discriminatory to females, people of color and lower income people, and who have serious substance abuse problems.  If they commit a crime, their parents get lawyers, and it is described as a "prank" and the kids end up with no record.  These kids may not be disrupting class, but they are disrupting their peer's social development in a way that, frankly, is worse than disrupting class.

So get off your high horse about an SN kid who interrupts the teacher while speaking or roasts a little harder than his peers who are doing the same.  His peers are socially aware enough not to cross the line in front of adults, but guarantee they are crossing many lines in secret. [/quote]

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