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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Thank you"

Then you realize that people are trying to be nice to you.  You clearly don't deserve it.  What a self-centered shrew![/quote]

I want to apologize.  Now that I have read the other comments, I fully agree that you must be having some sort of post-partum issues and you should probably seek help.  It is fully irrational to be offended by such a nice compliment.  You should view your reaction as a red flag.[/quote]

Perhaps you should view your knee jerk response to tell a post partum woman that she does not deserve kindness and is a "self-centered shrew" as a red flag and ALSO seek professional help.[/quote]

It is a good point.  I am just really upset about people who are so self-centered that they view common compliments as offensive.  It not only brings negativity to the world in general, but it chills people from being nice.  I hadn't considered that maybe the new mom was generally a wonderful person who appreciates people being nice to her but is currently suffering from mental illness.[/quote]

Consider that is much more self centered to think anyone cares about your opinion of their body. Wanting to just be left alone/unbothered is not really self centered at all.[/quote]  It actually is.  Stay home if you can't handle people trying to be nice and polite to you.  Please don't bring your negativity to others.[/quote]
Toxic positivity.

Can you imagine, a woman feels like crap, has PPD, everyone around her: YOU LOOK AMAAAAAAAAAAAAZING. [/quote]

Yes, the horror of everyone around you saying nice things to you when you feel sad and crappy.  I know when I’m feeling that way it’s much better for my mental health when people either a) ignore me or b) tell me how tired and unwell I look.

/s[/quote]

Why are the only options saying "oh my god you look amazing" or ignoring you or insulting you?

How about "Hey, how are you doing? You look like you are handling all of this great but I know sometimes looks are deceiving -- I'm here for you either way."[/quote]
No, you can't do that! They might say "Actually, I'm really *NOT* coping, can you take this kid for four hours so I can have a f----king nap?" because all these positive not-depressed amazing DCUM people actually don't want to be asked to do something [/quote]

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