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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your mistake was the Evite.  Either you or your daughter get the girl's cells and send the time and place in a group chat and ask the girls to text RSVP by x date. Follow up on that date with anyone that hasn't. [/quote]

My 15yo was invited to a birthday party this weekend via Evite. I had not RSVPd. Kid texted my kid and my kid told me to RSVP yes and I did.

[b]Are these girls your daughter hangs out with regularly?[/b][/quote]

These are friends she just made this school year. Outside of school, she hasn’t had a chance to hang out with them.[/quote]

These don't sound like close friends if they never get together outside of school. My guess is that these are "friendly" kids, not really friends. [b]Why the Evite? [/b]15 year olds don't do that. They text or message to coordinate date/time/place.

My 14 year old's friend has a birthday party on Saturday afternoon. The plans were made entirely between the kids, with no parental involvement, and through texts/messaging. Parents only get involved if someone needs a ride.[/quote]

The friend whose birthday dinner DD is going to tomorrow, is black. Her birthday when she turned 13 was the first time I encountered parents nowhere in the building while the kids were doing their thing.

Why not? It’s been my experience that other parents want some kind of communication with another parent before dropping them off at their house or a venue for a party instead of going off of their kid’s word. I thought the Evite would be easy since it includes all the information the parents need.[/quote]

Do you have teenagers? I absolutely just take my kid's word for it. YOu want me to drop you at Olive garden and come back in two hours? Okey dokey. I don't need to talk to Larla's mom. [/quote]

That’s too hands off for me. Kid could be lying and that’s how trouble starts. I want to know with who and what parent is supervising for any outings, or any home visits, if any. YMMV.[/quote]

You think your 13 year old kid needs parental supervision to eat alone at Olive Garden???

Seriously?

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[b]It must be a cultural thing[/b]. No one in my circle would ever drop their 13 year old at a restaurant without some kind of supervision. [/quote]

Cultural how? What do you think the kids would do that requires adult supervision?

We're South Asian. DD's friend group is Asian, bi-racial, black, and white. Every one of them (except one; her family life is a mess) has had birthday dinners at restaurants without parental supervision. Parents either turn up to pay, or give CC to the birthday child. The one she's going to tomorrow is similar; parents are involved in transportation, not much else. [/quote]

I don’t know of any black, African, or Caribbean families that do this. Too many weirdos out there.[/quote][/quote]

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