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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I read these kinds of threads, I always wonder about the time when you first started dating. Were these guys living in their parent’s basement or on their own? If on their own, was their apartment relatively clean and were their bills paid? Once married, did you make their life too easy and now they are in lazy mode? How did your situation start?[/quote]

when i met mine he had a fine apartment that he shared with a roommate, and worked at the same place as me. Dh was and is extremely handsome and wildly funny and also a kind and good person. He was so much nicer to me than any boyfriend before or after and we really enjoyed each others company and talked for hours. In many ways he is still my best friend. He also had plans to get an MBA and was valued at work, albeit in a role with very limited growth potential. Looking at someone with a relatively simplistic life isn't a great yardstick of how they'll navigate a life with kids and the many complexities that come with that. It's the same as asking someone - weren't there red flags that your dh would ultimately cheat. Or weren't there red flags that your dh would put on too much weight and ultimately have a heart attack! The answer is complex. You prioritize things that at the time seem overwhelmingly important and maybe you don't have the life experience that would cause someone to think - well he's balding and kind of dumpy and not at all funny but I love that he's very driven and organized and we've discussed his net worth and it will make for a great retirement and we'll stop hooking up once we have kids really anyway so lets do it![/quote]

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