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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was there anything in writing about ILs continuing to use the house for living part time or storage?

OP this is so awful and I feel for your MIL. How frightened she must be. I don’t know what you can do right now to help her besides saying to DH and his siblings 
-FIL is an alcoholic and is not capable of managing MILs care
-It is scary that he is denying you access to records and providers
-I hope that you approach him together and tell FIL to name one of you as POA, and tell him you will go to court if he says no

It sounds like everyone has danced to FIL’s fiddle for a long time, and no one wants to stand up to him. It’s impossible for the rest of the family to make any decisions or figure anything out because FIL denies the information. Unless one of the children can take over I feel that MIL will be trapped under his “care.””

I’m also worried for BIL and his wife in the original house.  If FIL tries to bring her there without adequate care, but could put them in a dicey position.  Perhaps needs to be reported to adult social services

Wow, so sorry OP

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OP is not entitled to medical records or POA.

If they go to court, they aren't going to get guardianship as he is managing it.[/quote]

The suggestion is to name one of the children POA, not OP. FIL is described as a “lifelong alcoholic,” and it doesn’t sound like he’s doing a great job managing MIL’s care. If the siblings stick together, they might prevail. ideally they wouldn’t go to court and the alcoholic has been controlling everyone when faced with a united resistance might step aside.

OP can’t make any of that happen, but she can suggest it to the siblings if she wishes. MIL is a vulnerable and very ill person. I would advocate for her best interest, and FIL is clearly not acting in her best interest. [/quote]

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