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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have read these threads before and there are fundamentally two different kids of people:

-People who think it is polite to reciprocate an invitation 
-People who think invitations come without strings attached, simply because the person enjoys your company and wants to socialize

I tend to side with the latter, since I think the burden is on a host to not take on more than they are willing to take on, and it’s unfair to expect everyone else to have your same priorities in life.[/quote]

Um, seriously?  Other moms do not "enjoy" your kids' company - they are doing this for their kids.  If you don't have any intention of reciprocating, then shame on you.  It is not about you.  It is about the kids.  [/quote]

You don’t get to “shame” someone for not having the same priorities in life as you.  If you want to host a sleepover for your kid, then do it.  If you don’t, then don’t.  If you only want my kid to come to your kid’s sleepover if my kid will then have your kid over for a sleepover, then make that an explicit condition when inviting my kid, and I will decide if my kid getting to have fun with your kid is worth dealing with you twice.
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It's not about resorting to "shaming" tactics. The reality is that organizing a sleepover entails similar inconveniences and challenges for every parent involved. An invitation to a sleepover shouldn't come with a laundry list of contingencies or preemptory conditions. It's a simple matter of basic courtesy that when your child receives an invitation to join a gathering, you might consider reciprocating with a similar (but by no means identical!) gesture.

It's disheartening to perceive a lack of willingness to contribute on many parent(s)' part. Mutual support and cooperation make for stronger community bonds. It's unfortunate if you seem only inclined to take rather than give.

Hopefully, you'll reflect on the importance of reciprocity and recognize the value of being a contributing member of a community. After all, what goes around, often comes around...[/quote]

What?  Worry about yourself, ma’am.  I personally find it “disheartening” how people like you feel absolutely entitled to dictate how everyone else should live.  I am guessing you’re the PTA type who also complains constantly that no one “contributes” to all the utter BS that only you care about  :roll: [/quote]

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