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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Short answer:  Yes - you are definitely being taken advantage of.

If you look at most of these responses, parents excuse their failure to reciprocate based on excuses such as "I'm antisocial", "My house is messy or small", or "I work full-time".  That is all irrelevant and does not excuse their lack of manners.  I work full-time.  I have a busy schedule.  My house is not pristine.  Regardless, I still always try to set an example for my kid to be courteous and kind because that is an essential job as a parent.  If I can't host during the week, I suggest a weekend day.  Easy peasy.

That being said, your daughter's friends are not their parents nor do they have their parents' issues.  The girls are probably completely unaware of any underlying dynamics, and hopefully remain that way.  Just because a parent is being selfish, doesn't mean that should reflect on their kid.

The takeaway: If your daughter and her friends are having a good time and you don't mind hosting, keep doing it...
You don't have to be best friends with the parents, just be there to help your daughter, her friendships, and (perhaps) even her friends who are not being exposed to better adult role models.  
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I agree with this post. Yes, the excuses are lame, but if your child enjoys and you can handle it, then keep it up.

My husband and I both work full time and have four kids: a toddler and a 1st, 3rd, and 4th grader, and we have no problem hosting sleepovers for the friends of our oldest three in our sometimes messy 3-bedroom house. It's not like hosting a fancy party for adults. The biggest extra thing I do is make them pancakes in the morning, and I can always cut that out if I need to. The kids entertain themselves. Our kids love it. Some friends reciprocate a lot, some less. That's OK, I don't really care.[/quote]

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