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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are in an area where most of our friends and neighbors go to our local public school, at least for elementary school.  [b]We have had mixed feelings about the school [/b]since COVID (started kindergarten during covid) and have decided to move our two older children to our local parochial school.  I feel weird telling our neighbors/friends because [b]I don't want them to think we have bad feelings toward our public school[/b], it just isn't a good fit for our kids right now.  Also DH and I are big proponents of public school, both of us going to public school before college, and are having mixed feelings about [b]having to send our kids to private school[/b]. Any thoughts on how to reconcile these feelings? [/quote]

Bluntly, you do have issues with the school - you’ve had “mixed feelings” since covid and feel that you “have to” send your kids to private (you don’t, you choose to). If someone said to me “I had to” send my kids to private knowing that mine were staying at the public, I would have a hard time not being offended. I wouldn’t hold a grudge or anything but it’s clear that you think this school isn’t good enough for your  kids and I’m sure you’ve done or said other things to make that clear.[/quote]

+1. [b]Most kids don’t “need” private school unless they have specific issues that a school is designed to address[/b].  Parents are “choosing” private school and in doing so you are saying it offers something that your public does not or you feel entitled to something different. This is fine, but don’t expect others to be naive to this fact you’re taking your ball and going elsewhere and why.[/quote]

This. Unless someone is moving to a really high-end private school (generally not parochial) I assume they are moving because their kid needs more support than the public school can give them. It’s not a reflection of my school choices, just the right environment for their kid. If someone is moving to St. Alban’s, then yes, it’s almost certainly a more rigorous education than any public school can offer and if my kid had the aptitude and we had the money, I’d send them there too. But for the typical neighborhood parochial school it’s less about rigor and more about fit for that kid. [/quote]

That was a whole lot of words to say, "I'm jealous of private."[/quote]

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