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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Without a custody agreement you’re free to do as you wish.  That being said I think your best option is to put the ball in his court.  Tell him you’ll either continue the status quo of taking them for seven weeks like you always have or have him watch them by himself for the seven weeks you plan on being gone.  If he chooses to keep them home to spite you they’ll survive and he’ll probably absolutely hate it.  He’s only threatening you to be a prick and to control what you’re doing.

Or maybe you can use this as an opportunity to hammer out an actual custody agreement.  That way everyone knows what they can and can’t do.[/quote]

Yes. He's a jerk. You need to be the adult and use his stupidity against him. [b]Call his bluff and propose to leave the kids with him, wait until he caves.[/b] Make him sign an agreement, so he can't call police as soon as you leave.

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This is what I was thinking. I'm guessing her DH works full time and it would be unacceptable to leave the kids unsupervised while he works. I'd present the following and let him choose.

Plan 1: They go with you as usual.

Plan 2: They go with you for half the summer and you fly them back as unaccompanied minors/your DH can fly out and collect them. DH then needs to plan for camps/childcare during his time with the kids.

Plan 3: They stay home with DH for the summer and he coordinates their summer care.

Fwiw, I'd really have a hard time turning childcare over to my DH because he's never had to do it and wouldn't know where to begin, but if you two are divorcing that is going to be how it plays out anyways unless your DH leaves the kids with you every break, so why not let him start considering that now. [/quote]

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