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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean they don’t love or approve enough? Is that just your sense or do they say something? Do you vent to them about the cooking? How would they even know?[/quote]

Both my sense and comments they have made over the years. And hearing them talking about other guys they meet who are around my age and how great they seem, but never any about DH.

No I don't complain about cooking or housework or anything. They've stayed with us before so they've seen how we do things. And they've asked me and I'm honest, but not in a complaining way.

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You wouldn’t answer their nosy questions if your first priority was you husband. I think you low-key resent him for all the things you listed in your OP. So, you complained to mommy and daddy for sympathy. But, low and behold, that backfired because they now hate him based on all the crap you’ve said about him.[/quote]
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My DH was like this early in our marriage, when the kids were small. Emotional immaturity and attention seeking on his part IMHO. He has always had a bit of a bumpy relationship with his parents. Large family with lots of kids where he didn’t get much attention.  Anyway- It sure didn’t help my relationship with ILs…we are happily married almost 20yrs (and DH has matured greatly- I’d like to think we both have) but ILs still have a low level dislike for me to this day due to some of the things he shared earlier in our marriage.

This type of thing is no joke, and really does not benefit any party involved (either individual spouse, the kids, extended family). People need to be careful about what marital info they share with family (barring serious issues like abuse & asking for help, etc of course)….family will remember long after any marital issue has been resolved and hold a grudge against the married-in spouse. Hard for them not to- it is their son/daughter who they feel has been “wronged”.

OP, my guess is you made your bed here….this won’t be easy to fix. [/quote]

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