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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel really sad reading all of this. I have never been cheated on by my spouse that I know of. But it really feels like something is off with our society and probably women’s perceptions of their marriages as the be all, end all of their lives and worth.

I have a friend that once put it to me like this: “I love my husband with all my heart. But I’m not blind enough to think that one day he could cheat, or leave, or let me down in some way. Anyone could do this, even the ones that seem to be of solid character. But it’s my job as a woman and a friend to myself to know my worth, and to carry on if he lets me down.” Or something like that.

I’m not trying to blame women who were cheated on for how they feel. I just try to live my life thinking, my DH, despite my love for him, is human and fallible. Life takes all kinds of turns and we really have to be ready for them. To think that every man will remain faithful to every woman they made that promise to is obviously crazy. We know that as humans we simply can’t do this. Millions and millions of both women and men get cheated on, and millions and millions of women and men make themselves ill with worry and heartbreak.

I really think it’s time we compassionately allow ourselves to acknowledge that things won’t always work out, and that we will be ok in spite of it. The alternative is a heartbroken and ill half of the population. And that too much. [/quote]

This comment is obnoxious in so many ways I don't know where to start.  [/quote]

+1.  When you are a good, honest, trust-worthy and trusting person, you could never imagine that your spouse, who you promised, vowed to be faithful forever, and gave all your trust to, was even capable of such a heinous betrayal.  It totally shatters every belief you've ever had.  I'm an incredibly high functioning person, but I don't know if I'll ever recover from this.[/quote]

Then you’re not as high functioning as you think.

And to even call yourself “an incredibly high functioning person” was the giveaway. What a weird comment. It’s the same as “I’m sotally tober, officer!”[/quote]

Don’t be an @sshole. I know it’s hard.

I know what pp means. I never had any mental health issues my entire life. Successful  career. Tough-physically and mentally. Been through loved ones terminal illness and death,  all kinds of things life threw at me…

But this is base level.  It’s primal.  It’s your kids. It’s your world as you believed it to be for decades—and then you are questioning every thing and everyone- what’s even real? What was real? And triggers are everywhere. Try finding a single show, movie or book without a betrayal-affair.  And let me tell you I never understood what that feels like because you will never know—only what you think it would feel like and that it would be a black and white issue.  Movies/shows never show the fallout. The after life for kids, betrayed spouses.[/quote]

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