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[quote=Anonymous]Not sure why this old thread was bumped, but glad it was.  I'm a spouse who occasionally does things that are a safety risk.

I do take my misteps very seriously, and the best way for me to make sure it doesn't happen is to develop some sort of system, and follow it, and convince myself to double check things that my spouse has expressed are important (even if I don't find it crucially important).  Here's some systems I use.

1) Leaving a hot hair tool on:  Always have one that times out or use a timeout power switch as backup. I still remember telling my friend in high school this "trick" and she was like "but, couldn't you just always turn it off?"

2) My keys have a place that I always put them.  Can't be left in the lock if they are in their spot.  If I'm off-routine and my hands are full, I might forget for a bit to take them out of the lock, but eventually I'll check my spot and know they are missing (with an airtag on, just in case).

3) Stove.  I actually didn't have one aside from the fact that a gas oven produced a smell - but just saw the rubber band trick mentioned in the thread so will try that.

I also do sometimes get offended when my husband "corrects" me - but that has improved because I know that I'm the problem, and I am now able to reflect on my emotional actions before I respond.  I also have asked him to let certain things go, just as I do for him, unless he has some sort of suggestion that I'm missing that would help.

Also, I was assessed for ADHD in the last year.  My results were borderline and ultimately the doctor said it wasn't impairing my life enough to be eligible for diagnosis/medication.  Could get a second opinion, but I generally agree about medication.  These saftey things do really bother/concern me, so I follow some ADD stuff to help me manage symptoms.[/quote]

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