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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So your parents know the date
You know the date via your parents alleged “rumor”
So …. You decide to pick a fight with your sister (whom you’ve gone on and on about personal slights utterly irrelevant to this wedding) about the date you already have
And complain here at length
When you could have
Just booked the flights
Or texted your niece
Right 
Thanks for wasting our tiney[/quote]

There was no fight, just a question and a non-answer. [/quote]

But you actually never told us your question … just the alleged response.  Considering how combative you are, and how twisted your reasoning is, I no longer believe anything you are writing. AND did not correct me above …. SO you indeed know the date as do your own parents. So why are you even bothering your sister with the alleged question … which you haven’t told us?  You don’t need to. And you don’t need to confirm with niece! You already have all the info you need. Just book the tickets.  Or better yet … don’t go at all. And with that I am leaving this madness[/quote]

Here is the text: 
"Mom told us about (date) for (neice)'s wedding! The flight prices look very good at the moment - date is solid for us to book?"

Response: "Invitations haven't been sent yet"

Me: "Understood"

/conversation[/quote]

You and your sister are poor communicators. Why not just say: can you confirm that xyz is the date for nieces wedding? I’d like to book tickets now. And then if your sister says invitations not sent yet instead of you replying “understood” (weird response) I’d say “ok if you can’t confirm the date I guess I’ll ask niece instead. Thanks!”[/quote]

But wasn't that my direct, exact question and I didn't get either a yes or no answer? I wasn't going to be passive aggressive, so I just said understood because I had no good other response to the non-response. [/quote]

You didn't get a yes or no answer but YOU still said you "understood."  You did not and do not in fact understand, because you do not know if this is about not actually having a date or your sister being petty.

You are also a poor communicator.  Maybe TALK to your sister to figure this out, and explain to her that you are wanting to reduce finances.  Why is that such a challenge?[/quote]

I understood that my sister wasn't going to answer my question. Her response was she isn't going to tell me before the invites arrive. [/quote]

But this is all very strange. You've talked to your parents and other relatives but not your sister or niece? You didn't call to say congrats on the engagement? Ask the details? Are you sure you will even be invited? Something is up either you're not making the cut or the engagement is on the rocks and might not happen. But no, you aren't an effective communicator at all.[/quote]

Neice has been engaged for 2 years so that isn't recent. Like most family, I figured I would hear when a date was set in the form of a save the date or a text / call. But, no, I received no communication at all from neice or sibling about the wedding. Hence my question when I heard about it from my parents who also were told in a very strange way.[/quote]

So this isn't going to be a traditional wedding with save the dates, a venue booked a year in advance, and all the over the top details. Let me guess, you are loaded and your sister is poor and this is another way you look down on her?[/quote]

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