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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are a small-minded and miserable woman. And your husband is dumb enough to report back to you what she said (also you don’t know if he exaggerated to rile you up). You two sound like a good match. [/quote] How am I small minded? Because I call MILs out on sticking their nose where it doesn’t belong. Let’s see how you react when your mil does the same thing.[/quote] So let's be clear here. It's Mils's business to ask how your pregnancy is going. if you are feeling well if you are tired? However it's not her business to ask how her son is doing? If she asks after her son she is judging you and your marriage. Do I have this correct?[/quote] My point is that I had a super rough pregnancy and labor which is a lot more than her son went through yet [b]she didn’t seem to care about me at all because she never asked [/b]but her son seems tired which is a natural thing for a first time parent of a young baby and she acts concerned about. Also interesting how we were together all day and then she waifs until I leave the room to ask my husband that question. That’s the part that really stuck out to me that it was her passive aggressive way of hinting that I’m not doing enough.[/quote] OP the bolded assumption is where you are potentially being unreasonable. Just because your MIL did not ask you directly how you are doing does not mean that she does not care about you or how you are doing. You are filtering that through your assumptions. She could have avoided asking you about yourself because she was afraid, based on prior experiences with you, that anything she said could be interpreted poorly, like she doesn’t believe you are competent or doing well as a mother. Based on your post alone I think this is highly likely. You need to look within and check yourself. OP my MIL died 10 years ago and I still mourn for her, I loved her so much. She was just a lovely lady. But I don’t ever recall her asking me how I was doing directly, ever. She was not a perfect person and could be temperamental and obnoxious. I know she loved me and cared because I just know, but she primarily communicated with DH and I know she also routinely asked him how he was doing. I also had difficult pregnancies and even had surgery during my first pregnancy. Very few people seem to ask women during this stressful time “are you ok.” Remember when Meghan Markle started crying during that interview just because the guy asked her “are you ok?” You have a lot of hormones rushing through you but you need to be gracious and respectful.[/quote]
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