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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can I just ask, where did all these boomer women get the idea that they can make insulting comments (like wow you look pregnant in that dress) under the auspice of helping or caring? What in their generation encouraged this practice?[/quote]

Their parents. My silent generation parents did this, and my grandparents also did this. Back in the day, at least in my family, you were just supposed to accept that your parents and grandparents emotionally abused you all the time.

Now, I have to actively try not to say mean stuff, as a Gen Xer, because it will just pop out of my mouth if I don't screen it with my brain first. Why? It's the way all older people in my life treated me and I want to break the cycle. [/quote]

Why do you think this was popular? Just being older and wiser and the head of the family and so they got to not think about what they said?

Now I think people are just meaner without the hierarchy.[/quote]

Probably because someone did it to them, and then when they were "in charge" as the oldest member of the family, they wanted to do the same thing to others. At least that's how it worked in my family. [/quote]

That didn't happen in my family. I have a greatest generation set of grandparents who were always fun and kind and hardworking. Their children are meaner. Possibly their parents were also meaner. Maybe they just had an easier life? I'm not sure.[/quote]

Oh for goodness sake, stop with the generation-blaming.  Horrible MIL's have been a thing since way before the boomers were even born.  In pursuit of a PhD dissertation, I once came across a fascinating government study (different country) from the 1700's, which found that the decline of the traditional family unit (extended family living under one roof) in this particular country was primarily due to the inability of younger wives to live with their MIL's.  MIL's are so bad they literally changed the course of history.  [/quote]

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