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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t accept free food. Even if it’s at a fancy event, even if everybody else is helping themselves. I always say I’m not hungry because I feel so much shame any time I accept free food. [/quote]

You have touched on the shame of being poor. That is what people do not understand/ grasp if they did not grow up that way. I remember feeling shame as a kid when our rich relatives mocked us for having too many kids in the family (8).

We never got free food, but we never went on a vacation and went out to eat maybe once a year when our great aunt took us out of pity.

To this day, I reuse baggies and foil and am almost monk- like in depriving myself of worldly pleasures. The only exceptiion to my frugality/ cheapness for myself is travel. My husband and I are multimillionaires now, but my brain still tells me I am poor. We stopped at one kid since I never wanted to be poor again. Kid went to most elite schools money could buy.[/quote]

I am wealthy but my sister is not. I want to help her kids with education etc. I would be interested to hear how best to approach it. I have offered to pay for private school for her girls (she has said maybe when they get a bit older) and offered to buy better computers. I want to help them but don’t want the kids to see it as charity or as a negative thing. [/quote]

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