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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe this works if you’ve got really average and unremarkable daughters who are super good at domestic tasks? Like I wouldn’t close it off as a path for a girl without other options.[/quote]

Why do you say “like” so much?  (It’s obvious you have posted more than once in this thread.) Do you think it makes you seem, like, remarkable?  Although I suppose I AM remarking on you, so well played.[/quote]

Actually that was my first post and the “like” is meant to be read ironically, since this is such a patently misogynistic idea that truly could— or should— only appeal to the sort of parent who looks at their child and thinks they have very little to offer beyond menial tasks and service.[/quote]

Why do you consider taking care of children, cooking, and cleaning to be “menial tasks”?  As opposed to sitting at a desk making powerpoints, for example.

I maintain that YOUR attitude is what is “patently misogynistic”.[/quote]

I don’t consider childcare to be necessarily menial, but scrubbing a toilet absolutely is. Washing dishes is. Doing laundry is. Maybe you look at your daughter and see someone whose highest aspirations in life should be cleaning up the fecal matter of others, but I certainly don’t see my daughter that way, and I notice very few people see their sons in that light. [/quote]

My son wants to be a plumber and I am encouraging that… I’m imagining there will be fecal matter involved.

I bet you pay some poor woman to clean up your fecal matter, since you’re too good to clean your own toilets.  You probably even pretend you don’t look down on her and consider her to be a lesser human than you.  And you undoubtedly consider yourself to be a feminist.  Gross.[/quote]

We pay a husband and wife housekeeping team. I can’t say who does it all of the time but I’ve seen the husband do the bathrooms.

They’re a hardworking immigrant family whose children— boys and girls alike— being raised to excel in school and contribute at home.

Your son is being raised to deal with feces for money and independence, your daughter to deal with feces as a dependent. Again if you don’t think she deserves better I can’t tell you you’re wrong, I can just say my daughter is deserving of more. [/quote]

LOL [b]of course [/b]you have the unicorn egalitarian family cleaning team.  BS.

But I do believe you pay hard working immigrants to serve you (funny how these menial tasks are suddenly respectable hard work when you talk about the hired help) - I’ll bet you pay them peanuts under the table while patting yourself on the back for “helping” them raise their KIDS to maybe someday be people you don’t look down on.

The fact that you think you’re too good to clean up your own mess and you’re raising your daughters to think the same says a lot about you as a person, but it’s not the feminist flex you think it is.[/quote]

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