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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your family is the normal and well adjusted family. Your kids know themselves and act accordingly. At that age, they don't need your approval. You've raised them well.

The other families (especially the adult children!) are doing some ingrained performative bullshit. Country Club families are full of this culture. It's weird!

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We used to vacation with a family where the kids would always unquestioningly do whatever they were told and my kids were always the “complainers.”  Turns out the dad was a total hardass behind closed doors and the kids cooperated so they wouldn’t piss him off. Needless to say we don’t vacation with them anymore.

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How hard ass do you have to be about showing up for a meal on a group vacation?

Just communicate ahead of time and do a mix of things. Dont agree and then sulk and mope and No Show like a prick. [/quote]

He wasn’t a hard ass about that particular scenario. He was a hard ass in general and the kids knew if they didn’t do as he said they’d be in trouble. The kids are yes men now so they don’t have to deal with him being pissed. It’s just easier to do exactly as he says. [/quote]

My kids are still kids but it isn’t that hard to show up for meals.

My kids bicker and fight and complain. If we have activities planned, they show up. So if we were on a trip with booked activities and meal reservations, they would go, especially if other people are involved.

If it is just our family, not everyone may want to go to the pool or beach. One kid wants to eat at the pool. Another kid wants room service. One kid wants pizza. Another wants sushi. There is always complaining.

When we are with others, they will eat bbq with the group or go out for Mexican even if one kid doesn’t like Mexican. They have always been good with excursions and booked activities. We only book after discussing with them. It is not unreasonable for people on a ski trip to go skiing and eat meals at the same time. I personally don’t ski. I hate cold and do t like heights. I would go to meals, hang out before or after ski time, go to the spa or hang back with others who don’t want to go on slopes for various reasons.[/quote]

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