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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband is a high achiever and I sort of am (I'm more of an "effective person") and our kid is shaping up to be pretty high achieving in high school.

My advice is:
- facilitate good habits. things like finish what you started, if something takes less than 5 minutes do it now, screens off when studying, screen time rules in general (age limits, app restrictions, put away at night, no way when with family or at dinner), study, be on time, brush your hair and look presentable, etc..
- make sure their friends are good kids. you can't 100% control this, but we did in certain ways and by high school our kid had friends who would ride in our car and talk about their classes and their extra curriculars and what jobs they wanted to work together in the summers (instead of just show each other TikTok videos and being idiots, which I am sure they do, but not all the time and not around us)
- present opportunities for activities and extracurriculars and model these behaviors
- work with them to help them learn concepts and think about hard things like tests and college
- teach them that they need to put themselves out there to achieve. it's not really enough to just apply to something and hope you're picked. you have to network and leverage and ask for what you want and also be good enough at it.

It helps if they are smart and kind and thoughtful.

So I'd say 50% nature 50% nurture but the jury is still out on my sample size of 1. [/quote]

You need nature and nurture, but the bigger part is luck -- so many things outside of your control can derail it all, and most of the time, you as the parent will not even know what it was.[/quote]

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