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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH's nephews are big examples of failure to launch, including a lack of college (failed sporadically taken classes at NOVA), lack of employment (both go for years with no job, then work at a place like the Amazon warehouse for a few months, and then get fired for not showing up because they didn't get out of bed), and addiction to cannabis and video games.

The father was unmedicated and mentally ill and screamed at them a lot (we don't know if he physically abused them or not, but probably); he terrorized them. He died several years ago. The mother was totally enmeshed with the boys and used her them for all of the emotional intimacy she didn't get from her DH -- so she kept them infantalized. She never disciplined them, never said anything about the constant smell of weed.

The are now mid-thirties and nothing has changed. They still live at home. The mother gives them money. The mother makes dinner every night as if they were 10 years old. They do nothing to help out (the mother recently hired someone to freaking mow their lawn). One of them does do the grocery shopping -- but he does it because his mother gives him her debit card and he uses it to get cash back (and of course she never says anything about this). [/quote]

Ugh

This can happen as well.[/quote]

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