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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ESH.

Eating off her plate (or even asking to do so in the first place) is weird and overly-familiar behavior on a second date.  Don't do that again.  Maybe it's fine once you get into an established relationship, but not on a second date.

That said, she should have said no.  "Actually, I'm planning to take this to work for lunch tomorrow."  Not hard.  [/quote]

Agree, it is overly familiar and (for me) too casual for a second date. Gives the impression you were focused on your own hunger, or maybe even on thinking that since you'd paid, the food should get eaten.

Even if that's not the thought behind it, OP, that's an impression it gives off, and impressions do still count on the second date. And frankly, for quite a while beyond that.

I do disagree, though, with the many PPs blaming the woman for not saying right away, in the moment,"I want to take it home." Hindsight is always perfect and it's easy for us to think, "I'd do that immediately!" But in that moment, she might have been so surprised that he was even asking, that she just didn't say it, and she might have felt, "Well, if he's that into eating off my plate, he must want it and I"m not going to try to snatch it back...."

We can all say about many situations, you should have spoken up then and there, but in reality, when you're the one IN that moment and someone does something you didn't expect, it's not always so easy to "use your words." Especially when it's something relatively small like this, it can sometimes feel like you should just let it go, then later you realize it really did matter to you. [/quote]

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