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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I started trying to have a child at 38, because I really had no idea this was such an advanced age to have a child.  Everyone believes that today women can easily conceive into their late 40's, and I'm not sure where the idea comes from, but it isn't true.  Some women can, sure.  Others can only with fertility treatments, up to and including donor eggs.  My husband and I suffered through 4 years of painful, depressing infertility and we did all the treatments except donor eggs before I finally managed to have a child at 42.

The idea that women can have children easily at any age, or that it's guaranteed because of medical treatment, is unfortunately a very harmful myth.  Sounds like your sister believes in it, and I know from experience that there is nothing you can say to dissuade a person from it.  Everyone has an anecdote about a woman who had a bunch of kids in her 40's, and think that's proof of something.[/quote]

With all the information out there today, it’s very unlikely that a 38 year old thinks it’s easy to conceive at older ages. 40+ year olds who have kids easily are lucky and probably know they are fertile because they have a strong family history of high fertility and successful late pregnancies. As another poster mentioned, there’s women at 45 who get pregnant as easily as a 30 year old.[/quote]

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