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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see both sides of this. 
Personally I started trying at 34 and ended up having 9 rounds of IVF in total due to diminished ovarian reserve. Was extremely lucky to have my two daughters at 37 and 41 but it was a LONG, SAD ROAD.

I was vocal with a few close friends (I don't have a sister) and truly if someone else didn't go through it they just didnt get it.

I can't remember exactly what I said to people that would ask back then but it was probably "we'll see".

BUT. I also agree that the proliferation of seeing celebs well into their 40's having kids does not help. They never mention that it was donor eggs or surrogates or that they had been making embryos and putting them on ice for past decade.  I know several women who are smart and talented be completely SHOCKED at 40 that they can't get pregnant. SHOCKED.

So I say if you have a good relationship [b]just lightly bring it up and tell her you're here to support her no matter what[/b] but you just wanted to ask.

Also most OBGYN's have the wrong advice and don't run the right tests. Straight to the RE's office. [/quote]

I think this is really good advice.

I was also on this long and sometimes very sad road.  I felt too ashamed to ever bring it up to my sister. I wish I had confided in her more because I know she would have been so supportive.  Instead, I had 4 quiet D&Cs that no one except my husband knew about. 
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