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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My brother in law used to drink too much too often and he fairly regularly forced himself on my sister. One night she got really angry and kicked him out of the bedroom altogether. Turns out that night he went downstairs climbed into bed with and molested his 13 year old stepdaughter he’d been raising since she was 3 years old. Far as I know it was a one off, but it destroyed my niece she went from being a normal preteen to being textbook sexually abused girl and all the associated reckless behaviors - they didn’t get her any counseling because that would involve eventual law enforcement intervention so they sacrificed my oldest niece to the altar of marital and family preservation. The family is all still together - and everyone is addicted and mentally ill to one degree or another.

I’m not suggesting that any woman has a duty to tolerate unwanted sexual advances from a drunk husband. From my own personal experience and my years of vicarious experience as a victim advocate and prosecutor, I am suggesting that a man who behaves this way about sexual entitlement should be carefully managed and every possible awful thing should be contemplated in the management of such a person. I can’t tell how many shell shocked wives and girlfriends I talked to over the years about the sexual abuse of their kids by a male family member including partners - I’ve lost count. Sexual abuse of kids in the home by their own parent or stepparent or mother’s boyfriend is sadly not at all uncommon and many of those families are not poor and not trash in any other observable ways.

If I were you, OP, I would at minimum insist on a very strict limit on alcohol consumption by the husband for the rest of the marriage. A man who rapes under the influence needs to not be under the influence, period. [/quote]You've gone way off-track and made a huge leap about sexually abusing children, when nothing of the sort happened.  Try to stick to the subject.  This isn't about your niece.  [/quote]

Disagree completely. He has most definitely raped in the past and I would never trust him ever again. [/quote]

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