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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No woman satisfies all of my wish list but here is a list with more important items toward the top:

Inquisitive
Intelligent 
Has interesting things to say
Sexually responsive in bed ([b]has many Os, so women who tell me they like sex but rarely reach O with a man are not going to hold my attention for the long term)[/b]
Comfortable talking with me about feelings, family, politics, etc 
Passionate about things she does in the world (career, community service, making music or art...but I almost never click with stay at home moms)
Attractive (can be unconventionally attractive)
Likes to cook with me or do other things with me 
Challenges me to be a better person
Attuned to my body (not as important as enjoying what I do to her, as long as I get basic needs met)
Compatible with my friends
Compatible with my family 
Active
Likes exploring the city
Likes to travel
Financially independent

I actually meet a fair number of women like this but the ones I like best usually end up preferring someone who is hotter.  Plenty of smart and hot women like me too, but there's usually an obvious quality listed above that's missing.

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All women can O. You’re either skilled enough to attune to her body responses to make her O or you have good enough communication skills to learn and explore her body with her to reach an O.

If she’s not reaching Os with you, then it’s a you thing.

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I knew someone (many people) would have this reaction.  I actually am skilled, according to some women, and I've taught some very late bloomers how to O.  I'm talking about older women who never had an O in their lives or never had one with another person present. I am extremely calms and patient in bed, take a lot of time to explore, and am pretty gentle. Several women have told me they find it much easier with me than with most other men (or in a few cases all other men).

BUT some women have not been attracted to me once the action starts.  Or they wanted me to be rougher than I'm naturally inclined to be.  I think I'm just incompatible with those women.

A few have said they actually are attracted to me and actually like they way I touch them but they also say they can't O with me, or with most men.  Some of these women have said things like "I can do it but only with a vibrator "  Unfortunately, I find using a vibrator to be a major turn off.  I know some men don't mind it but I do.  It's a bigger deal to me than being overweight or having an ugly face.

I've also encountered the problem of a woman needing me to be very turned on before she can get very turned on.  I'm pretty much the same way.  I need the woman to be turned on first.  If both of us need this, then neither of us gets very turned on. and there's lots of disappointment.  I actually enjoy being with somewhat selfish lovers for this reason.

Some people are just not compatible.  If I don't get turned on by a woman very much, I probably wouldn't say "it's a you thing."[/quote]

That’s not what you said originally. You said “women who don’t reach O with a man”.

My comment remains, these women that you are not compatible with can O. They may O in a way that’s different then you want them to. For example the woman that likes using a vibrator. She may like vibrator play with sex. Lots of women only have C Os, for them vibrator play with PIV gives them pleasure that they like. She can still O with a man that way.

You don’t like that. That’s a you thing.

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+1 to it being a him thing, and the bit about vibrators being a turnoff is a tell and a half.[/quote]

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