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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At what age did you tell your donor conceived kids about half siblings? My boys are 10.  They know they were conceived via donor sperm but haven’t spoken yet about their half siblings.  I know they have 3 of them for sure.[/quote]

Let me see if I understand:  donor conceived people will go through life having to have a DNA test with everyone they go out with to make sure they are not related?  What kind of Hell you have created for your donor conceived child!
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Answer: you don’t understand.

All they have to do is ask if the other person was donor conceived. The vast majority of people are not. [/quote]

They could be the donor’s biological child. I have DE kids and while I have not looked for any half siblings of theirs I assume that they probably exist but the donor herself could have had her own children. [/quote]

I really hope you aren’t actually worried about the ridiculously minuscule possibility of your child marrying or mating with a biological half sibling. It’s unlikely your donor was able to have multiple rounds of IVF. She probably made a few donations total. Likewise, she’ll probably only have a few kids who will likely be much younger than yours because your donor was probably a young, unmarried woman when she donated.

And even if your kids did meet and married, their kids would probably be fine. In the olden days, first cousins used to marry each other for generations and generations. Unless there’s some sort of recessive gene condition, it should be a nonissue with just one half-sibling marriage. Even when two people share the same recessive gene for a terrible genetic disease, there is still an 75% chance that their child will not be affected. And I’ll bet the donor was thoroughly screened for such issues.

I really cannot understand why people worry about this sort of thing. You might as well worry about a plane crashing into your house. It’s just as likely. Plus, a lot of the kids I know who have health issues/genetic disorders have parents from very diverse backgrounds. Sh— happens.[/quote]

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