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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No judgment please, so step aside Gen X.

Elder millennial here who was sold (literally) the American dream. You have no other choice but to go to college and you will take out exorbitant loans. Marry in the Midwest by mid-20s. 3 kids by early 30s. On the back of highly taxed retirement withdrawal, somehow put a down payment on a decent home and now house and student loan poor. No chance for college savings for kids.

Add unhappy in marriage, blaming one another for ending up in *this* place. From coming to age in the era of 9/11, graduating college in an economic recession, attempting hope in Obama era to be shattered with Trump. Trying to raise a young family and being slammed with a pandemic. Everything has been terrible, silver lining coming only in the love I have for my kids. Dark cloud over everything post-Nintendo in the basement with my siblings - 1995.

Will a divorce be the final straw? Are elder millennials f**ked forever or am I the special kind that was hit with it all?[/quote]

You sound clinically depressed and might benefit from therapy and medicine. I mean that kindly.

Don’t go down the “our generation had it so tough.” Gen X and Boomers lived every day with the threat of global nuclear annihilation. The Greatest Generation survived a Great Depression and two world wars. The things you’ve had to deal in your life are nothing.

Stop blaming others for your unhappiness. If you do, you WILL end up divorced and this will be a self-fulfilling prophecy.[/quote]

threat of global nuclear annihilation? really? [/quote]

Yes. Absolutely. I knew the location of every fallout shelter in town. Watched "The Day After" when it was broadcast. The threat of mutual destruction was omnipresent and real until about 1989, even even then with the fall of the Iron Curtain there were concerns about the security of Russian nukes. [/quote]

So similar to how kids today know every exit in school to get away from a potential school shooter, have quarterly drills to practice, etc? The closest weve been to another nuclear fallout since Cold War was last year so you arent the only generation to experience it. 
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No one said kids today don't have even more pressing existential threats. [b]But yes, gen x kids grew up believing that any minute now, Russia was going to nuke us. [/b]The fact people find this so unbelievable does suggest, I think, that we are the last generation in a while for this to have been the thing that kept us up at night.

This doesn't have to be a battle of the generations. We can acknowledge that every generation had some things harder and some things easier. Including, yes, millennials.[/quote]

I remember having a conversation with my father about how our podunk little rural NJ town was likely on a preliminary or secondary target list for the USSR, because there was a telephone switching station in it that controlled the phones for half the east coast.  I think I was 10.

No one said Gen X kids had it exclusively rough - people are just pushing back on those who are claiming that their generations *ahemmillennialsahem* have it worse than anyone.  [/quote]

I am the PP - and yes, for sure, that's exactly what I meant. Sorry if that didn't come through.[/quote]

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