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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not say I’m in a sexless marriage at all - I like sex and enjoy it. But I know my husband wishes we had more. The thing is, I have been open about the things that would help me have more energy for sex (primarily more chances feel like an adult, see my friends, exercise and SLEEP). None of those materialize because we are running on a thin margin all the time because he works a ton and I’m in charge of everything to keep our house running and everything related to the kids on top of my own job ( he doesn’t want me to SAH and I don’t want to). So what do I conclude? He might want more sex but not enough to do anything about it. It’s not even resentment it’s just a fact. If I’m exhausted because I worked after the kids were asleep until midnight to make up for a kid appointment and then a child woke me up at 5:30 I’m not in the mood. Not going to happen. I think it’s more common than people think.[/quote]

In that situation, maybe it's just the costs aren't worth the benefit. More sex would be great. But there are only so many hours in the day. He either has to give up on some work, some sleep, or some of his (rare, I assume) leisure time. And if he did take on more of what you're currently doing now, there's probably even more stuff you feel like you ought to be doing -- so if he takes on more, are the odds really all that good that you'll just enjoy the down time? Or will you find other stuff that needs doing? If the down time does materialize, will it actually lead to more sex? Maybe you'll resent him doing more because he's just doing it to get sex. Or maybe it'll turn out that your hormones make it so you don't really want to have more sex after all.

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