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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just figure out how to pay for it yourself.

Grandparents make all sorts of grandiose proclamations with younger children that they don’t mean. It’s all for show.

If your DC got in ED and you really can’t afford it, you can explain the situation to the school and they should let you out of the agreement. There’s no way to force the grandparents to help.[/quote]

Can I pay for his college? Yes. Do I think it's fair that I am the only who is doing that and exDH is not contributing a dime, and now his parents are flaking? No, I think it sucks. [/quote]

Yes, it is fair.  Child support stops at age 18.  You want him to go to college.  You picked that college.  Dad has been clear he isn't contributing.  So, either pay or they go to a cheaper college, community college or don't go until they can save enough to go.[/quote]

The student should be paying for his own college. If he wants it, he can pay for it. If mom wants it, mom can pay for it.[/quote]

You clearly have no idea how financing college works.  Available financial aid is based on the parents income whether they are willing to pay or not.  And kids cannot work their way through college.  In state college with room and board will cost close to $40K/year in many states.

It may have been unwise to rely on these flaky grandparents (that raised a flaky child), but your comment is asinine.

Glad you are not my parent.[/quote]

Me too!
I know exactly how it works, and how much it costs. There is no reason college kids cannot get jobs and contribute and then work to pay off the difference. OP's kid should have been working and saving for college for years. If not, that's just bad parenting.[/quote]

You really expect them to work full time and go to school.  That’s not realistic.   [/quote]

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