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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This seems like a silly problem for two adult people in a supposedly good relationship.

You’ve been together for six months and for all intents and purposes are a committed couple. You’ve met each other’s families, he’s shown you his financial records, you’re sexually exclusive, he’s been there for you.

You (allegedly) don’t care right now about living together or marriage. You just want him to call you his “girlfriend”.

He seems to see everything beyond your current state as a big step that he’s not ready for, and he seems to see calling you his girlfriend at the same level as moving in together.

I kind of feel like if you weren’t hung up on the “girlfriend” thing, you’d both be at the same place in six months—a boyfriend/girlfriend who are moving in together.

Also, I’ve noticed that you haven’t given us your age, despite being asked. Aren’t you guys too old to be calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend anyway? What does he call you to his friends? What do his friends think you are to him? [/quote]

Agreeing w/ almost all of this. You're 6 months in. 6 months. His actions seem very committed to you. You feel kind of desperate to "close the deal". He may be feeling HUGELY pressured or smothered and you may be killing a great things w/ your focus on locking this all down. I would back waaaay off. Not break up w/ him, but just step back. Don't worry about the labels, enjoy the relationship but don't try to make anything more of it is that it is right now. Then see where you are in 6 monhts.

I'm a woman, who waited 2 years for my boyfriend to propose (and we were 40!!) and it almost killed me - but I had to just wait until he was ready. And he was worth it. So I'd advise you to really slow down and relax.[/quote]

Yeah, but OP is not waiting for a proposal. She's just waiting to be called his girlfriend. [b]How long did you date your now DH before he called you his girlfriend?[/b][/quote]

Exactly.  My last few relationships we hit bf/gf status shortly after sleeping together.[/quote]

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