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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you don't want a boyfriend.  You want this guy to commit to being your son's step parent.  Its obvious.  He doesn't want to be nor should he have to be.  You're using the boyfriend label just to force the momentum of the relationship to a place where you believe he will be unable to extricate himself.

Essentially you are trying to emotionally blackmail a perfectly nice guy to be what you want him to be and to fulfill your needs.

This is the problem with dating single moms.  It always comes to this.

OP, whatever the reason your baby daddy is out of the picture,you should NEVER be dating any man with the objective that the reason you are dating him is for the goal of finding a step dad for your son.

[b]You should assume you will be a single mom rasing your son by yourself for the rest of your life.[/b]

If you want to date men and have serious relationships do it without the notion that you are doing it to find a step father for your son.  The more you chase that the likelier it is you will scare men who might be open to it at some point, away.

You are totally objectifying this guy.  It's all about you and what you want.  Not about what he wants or doesn't want.

Other than sex, what do you even bring to the table? Independent of your needing a step father for your child, why do you think a man this one or any one, be willing to commit to you?  What are they getting out of it?  It really doesn't sound like you have much to offer aside from your own needs and unrealistic expectations.

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This is crazy. Of all people, young widows do not need to go through life assuming they’ll never marry again. (But they also shouldn’t be playing house with a boy toy either.)[/quote]

[b]Just because a single mom gets married doesn't impose any obligation on the guy she marries to be a surrogate father to prior children she might have[/b].   Assuming that she's entitled to that from pretty much any guy she decides she likes is simply not realistic.  OP is obviously not deeply bonded to the guy she's dating at all, and he is aware of that.  She just sees a wallet to plunder and calculated that plenty of sex would get him to open it freely for her and her kid.  Now she's made that he can see what she is really all about.[/quote]

Do men seriously marry women with young children and not think they will need to be a father figure to them?[/quote]

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