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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband has had a female friend since he was about ten years old and they are very close. Initially it bothered me but over time I realized that they are and will always be great buddies. At one point she was divorced and that got my attention but my husband has never given me a reason to not believe they are just friends. At one point early on I asked if he had ever slept with her and that was stupid on my part given I’ve had guy friends who I didn’t sleep with. [/quote]

Totally missing the point.  They would have slept with you if you let them.  Also you were feeding emotionally on their sexual attraction to you.
 
Same with your husband and his "friend." Just because you didn't have sex with your male orbiters doesn't mean they didn't.[/quote]

You people are seriously crazy. I'm a man. I've got female friends who I've been friends with for decades to whom I'm not remotely attracted. I've got a woman I've been friends with since high school. I'm in her will to take care of her kids if something happens. I've been the one to drive her home from surgeries. It's one of my closest friendships. I don't want to sleep with her. I didn't want to sleep with her when we were both single. If she asked, I'd assume she had a tumor.[/quote]

That's interesting.  Why did she pick you to be the guardian of her children?  Sounds like a pretty close emotional relationship.  Is her husband dead or something?  What does your wife think about it?

When you say you have female friends for decades you mean you are in constant close contact with them texting and so forth like the OP describes?  [/quote]

Yeah we're really close. Friends since we were teenagers and supported each other through lots of rough times. The baby's father is alive but she doesn't trust him. I've never pushed to find out why, because I figure if she wanted to tell me she would. I also recognize that I'm unlikely to get custody over him, because that's up to a court, but I'd try.

My wife is fine with that, she was there when she asked. Obviously neither of us want my friend to die or to suddenly be raising two kids whose mom just died, but she'd do it if needed.

Yes, I have female friends I text constantly. Texting with long-term friends will come and go, but if someone is going through a hard time it'll be really often. Some of those women are attractive to me, some are not, but I'm not going to sleep with any of them because I'm married.[/quote]

So you’re close enough to be given legal guardianship of her children if she dies but she isn’t close or comfortable enough with you to tell you why she doesn’t trust the baby’s father? Sounds backwards to me. Don’t super close friends confide in each other?[/quote]

Your concern about the friendship of 25 years between two people you've never met is noted and I'll give it all the consideration that it's due.[/quote]

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