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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, this was not the thread I was expecting when I opened it. At all.

OP, first, you should be prepared that the house was not properly sheltered when you had the legal work done in 2010 (?). There are a lot of lawyers who claim they know how to do this but truly do not and families end up spending money on legal fees for naught.

Second, please get home care for your mom. At a minimum, it would be for the weekdays when no one is at home. You may not like it, but it is what it is.  $6500/month will get your mom a good degree of coverage. Go with a CNA, not a home aide, who might not know what they are doing and/or balk at being asked to do certain tasks as they are “not a CNA.”

Third, investigate if the house is sheltered and also look into what, if any, government programs exist for your mom. Find out what nursing homes have “Medicaid beds” and the process for admission. Some allow you to enter and private pay while you apply. Some are helpful with the application while others expect you to do it on your own (don’t do it on your own but seek outside advice - the apps can be very complicated).

Finally, heed others advice here that you may risk your relationship with your sibling if you do not care for your mom at home.  Sometimes siblings insist on care steps that are not grounded in reality. Your sibling’s request for your mom to remain at home, however, seems eminently reasonable. [/quote]

What sort of thread were you expecting, out of curiosity?  
I agree with your advice however.

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