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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So then if you couldn’t do something for one of your kids you shouldn’t do it for any?  I’m not in this boat because my older kids did not go to college. But frankly, if we were so inclined, we could do much more for our youngest than we would have been able for our older kids due to having a paid off mortgage and no longer having to pay high medical bills for one of our kids and higher incomes.

Also I was in this situation sort of. My father died when I was young and my mom had to choose which kids to support because she couldn’t support all of us. I was the one she choose not to support. It must have sucked to be her and have to choose. No resentment here. [/quote]

You can do whatever you want. But there will be blowback and consequences because the slighted person will feel hurt by the injustice and may respond in ways you don't like.

It's great that you hold no resentment. Many people understandably would. [/quote]

Meh. It depends on the family.

This happened in my family.

Parents paid for youngest sibling's college. He is much younger (7 years between him and the next youngest).

My parents' financial situation did not change. They probably felt like they could be a little more flexible with spending because all the other kids were adults and independent.

We were happy they did. And we probably would have chipped in to help him take less loans than we did if our parents did not pay.
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