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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is hard as hell to go through this—for the patient AND for the spouse.

OP, what does he say when you tell him you need him to do xyz things that you need?[/quote]

So far, nothing much. Right now I want to be able to talk to him and feel like he understands that I am worried and a little support would sure be nice.  I am intentionally not telling a lot of others in our lives for some specific reasons. I don't have a big family, my parents have both passed, my sister is dealing with a very significant health issue with my niece right now and there is nothing happening immediately for me so I don't want to add this to what she has to think about. I'm definitely not ready to tell work so I don't want to tell anyone that might share the news, say something on social media, etc., and I'm not ready to tell my kids until I am preparing for surgery. I realize I am limiting the support I could get but these are the choices I'm intentionally making for reasons that are important to me so I'm not going to change them now.

I realize it's hard to be someone's sidekick on a cancer diagnosis and that he is going through something, too, but it sure feels disappointing that he is unable to have a conversation with me about a big thing like this. We spend more time talking about watering our plants than we have talked about my health scare.
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