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[quote=Anonymous]Op here with some answers to various questions.

-When we moved to the suburbs we were both working in person everyday in the suburbs so we were both commuting an hour+ each way from city to suburbs every day. We were really young and just thought hey interest rates are at a historical low so lets buy a house big enough to be our forever home in a great school district near our jobs- so we did. Then COVID hit and not only have we not made neighborhood friends but we are both WFH since then (both permanently now) with no local coffee shop, cafe, book store, etc to take a break to. It's so isolating.

-We both grew up in the city and have networks there already. We lived in the apartment we are considering moving back to for 4 years so we already know several neighbors.

-My grandparents are already on the decline health wise. My grandma is on oxygen and my grandpa has various issues though he does work out everyday, still drives them around, etc. We already have a rotating care schedule between my 5 cousins, my mom, and aunt, one of us is there everyday dropping off food, chit chatting, playing games with them, tending to random household tasks. Not to be morbid, but I think my grandpa at least will live a few more years and then it would take probably at least a year to clean the house out as they've been there since the 50s. Best yes obviously anything can happen and longevity is a concern of mine.

-I've really tried to make friends. There's a family with a girl my DD's age on our block and my DD drew her a picture and we left it in their mailbox along with a note that we'd love to meet at the park for a playdate sometime and my number- never heard from them. I doubled my garden last summer and made cute little baskets of veggies and used those to walk up to neighbors outside and introduce myself and say I had so much from the garden and share. I did have a playdate with 2 moms from my DD's class but while we were there, they asked me what religious education we were supplementing public school with and I just smiled and said that we actually weren't and there was an awkward pause and then they didn't include me in the next playdate. I joined the local barre/pilates studio and even volunteered there to watch kids during one class per week so moms could work out, volunteer at the library events, but just nothing is sticking. I've never had this issue before.[/quote]

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