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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op sitting here reading every response and literally tearing up. I hate it here so much. Thanks to all the Chicagoans for chiming in.[/quote]

honestly, this doesn't look that bad:

https://www.mountprospect.org/community/about-mount-prospect

your reaction suggests that you have some other issues going on. i say that as life-long (50 years old now) city person, and a psychologist. it's ok to move to a place that suits you better, and not all places are the same. but moving 20 miles is unlikely to be a major fix for anything.[/quote]

A 20 mile move can be a major fix for someone who’s unhappy.  [/quote]
+1! 20 miles is neighborhoods apart. And the “psychologist” is really trying to diagnose that OP has something else going on based on their posts on a message board? Lol.[/quote]

i am not diagnosing anyone (what was the diagnosis?) but her assessments seems extreme given the circumstances. i don't like suburbs, either, and never lived there. but it's a preference, not a calamity.[/quote]
You made an assessment of OP “your reaction suggests that you have some other issues going on.”

That’s wildly inappropriate for a “psychologist” to post. But anyone can post here claiming to be any profession. A real psychologist would never have said that.

- a lawyer[/quote]

Yeah that was weird.  The OP has been nothing but logical.  She hates the suburbs and wants to live in the city.  She had pros/cons.   People actually from Chicago or live in a suburb or city have given their perspective.

- a trapeze artist. [/quote]

Except OP is an adult with kids. There is more to consider than walking to restaurants and bars. Can she even go to these places on a regular basis?

A lot of people feel like OP but you grow up and value a safe neighborhood, good schools and enough space for a family.

I’m not sure I’d trade walkabikity for a challenging school situation and cramming a bunch of people into a 2 bedroom apartment.  This is very mid-life crisis-y.

Problems follow you. Someone who doesn’t walk anywhere now and doesn’t have an active social life is unlikely to move 20 miles away and have this new magically different life.

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[b]Of course you are going to have a different life living in the city versus the suburbs! Have you never lived in different places? [/b]

OP my biggest worry would be that this seems dependent on your grandparents doing well and remaining in the home. At over 80, things can change quickly. [/quote]

I have and I think the grass is always greener. I don’t see how moving 20 miles away will drastically improve OP’s life. [/quote]

That’s because you’re being stubborn.

We moved 7 miles from a DC suburb to downtown as young(ish) empty nesters and it’s made a world of difference.  Obviously we don’t have kid but we do have grandkids in the city and they are thriving.  It’s not something that we would have considered when raising our own kids but in retrospect we were pretty narrow minded about it.  There are definitely pros and cons but so far as I’m concerned a huge con would be if the parents are terribly unhappy with where they are.  [/quote]

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