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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t not respond on purpose but 95% of the time I get an invitation, it’s because I was randomly scrolling my phone when I should have been doing something else (like work). In order to respond, I need to check my calendar, check with my husband on his plans, figure out a babysitter if necessary etc. I forget to do all that because I have to go back to doing what I should have been doing in the first place (like work) and then I’ll remember the invite in the shower 2 weeks later. Charge it to my head and not my heart, as my mother says. [/quote]

I get that, but if you don't want to miss stuff, you need a system. I send myself email reminders for things I get a text for, if I can't answer within a couple of hours because I need to check calendars, etc. Email is easier because as a PP said, it doesn't disappear and you can mark it with priorities, flags, etc.

Interestingly we do not have the non-response issue for our adult friends at all, but we do for our kids' social engagements. Kids are lower elementary, still young enough to need parental involvement/agreement in playdates, and to be taken to and from the playdate. It is remarkable how many people either don't respond, or don't reciprocate. For instance there is a kid in my DD's class who asked for a playdate. Her parents texted us. We responded quickly and suggested a time. They responded and said oh, that doesn't work, we'll get back to you soon on another time. They never did. This sort of thing happens a lot. I assume they are not actually interested (despite being the originator) or are flakey (in which case, I'm not super interested in pursuing them). Or with other folks, they come to a playdate and then never reciprocate. Which is fine, I suppose; I don't want to force company on them if they are busy, don't like us or DCs, etc; but when they are super friendly at the playdate and talk a big game about having another one soon and then radio silence ... yeah, I write them off as flakey.[/quote]

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