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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can definitely see how this is annoying, but I'm not with you on the waiting a month to see a newborn first grandchild.  They should be told of the impending birth when labor starts, just like your mom.  Then they can get there as quickly as possible with a little help for logistics from your husband and meet the baby at the first feasible opportunity.  Denying them access while your mother stays and helps 24-7 is just cruel.

Plus, you just never know what help you will need.  I had a very colicky baby, and even though my mom and mil are both bat-sh*t crazy, they we both there with me, taking 15 minute shifts walking around with a screaming baby all night.

To those new moms, it takes a village.[/quote]

Agree that no one should have to wait a month to meet a grand baby.  Even if you don't want them staying at first, a month is not reasonable.[/quote]

Many people wait much longer than a month to see their grandchild, and somehow they survive.  :roll: [/quote]

Let's not hijack the thread with this topic. OP isn't talking about the initial baby visit. [/quote]

I think the husband is a workaholic because he doesn't want to or can't deal with all of this.  You won't solve the in law problem until you solve the husband problem.[/quote]

It’s not OP’s “problem” to “solve.” If DH wants to see the parents and take his kids, or make arrangements for his parents to visit when he can actively host, he can do so. It’s a problem for OP’s ILs, not for OP. If they want to solve it, they can pick up the phone and call the son they raised. [/quote]

OP does have a problem if this issue causes her to come here to rant. She's not dealing with this problem very well, apparently.[/quote]

…that’s why she labeled it as a “rant,” Love. See how that works? Someone ELSE called it a problem, and that’s why I used quotation marks when responding to that other person. I hope you are all caught up now.[/quote]

To spend the time to type that out, all those words and paragraphs, and then pretend like its not a problem? Ok. OP would be better off just going for a walk to cope with hee “problems”. Get it?[/quote]

Here you are on a different day on page 6. If the rant was so long, why did you read it? If this thread is so beneath you, why are you here?

Get it?[/quote]

Nobody read all of that mess. Just a bunch of blah blah. Doesn't look like OP has been back so probably the usual troll.[/quote]

Why would the OP be back? She herself said this was a “rant.” A rant is not a request for advice. Get it? My, you really are both thick and obsessed. [/quote]

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