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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Divorce.

He will be elated. The heavy foggy burden adhd burden of being a homeowner, parent and spouse will be lifted. He won’t know why he’s so elated, in fact he’ll blame you for not being this happy all along! But life will be better for everyone.

And then, he will take his misguided overconfidence and start dating. If he’s smart he’ll never live with another person again. If he’s dumb he’ll live with a woman and have more kids. And the heavy, fuzzy burden of adulthood will return to him, and ruin everyone’s lives. [/quote]

To continue and clarify, an aspie who’s a jerk will “move on” quickly. Why? Because of their autism and not having had a real connection or social understanding of marriage or parenting roles in the first place.

Their “expectations” in life are off- everything LOOKs easy to someone clueless so it MUST BE easy, so why is my wife complaining, she must be a nasty B. And since they don’t confide in friends or family, their perceptions of life get further fabricated.

Then they decide they’re the victim. Not their kid they made late all the time, or the frozen pizza meals, or how they can’t talk after 6pm as they’re too tired from the day, or they didn’t pay the bill they said they would.

So divorce looks great to them, and yes they may “badmouth” you to anyone who listens or not say a peep.

You won’t care though. You are done. You have seen them unmasked and know they have nothing to offer. They are not there for you when it counts, they are religiously unreliable and untrustworthy.

So get therapy for your kids to fully understand living with an HFa parent. Lots of games and gaslighting and they tend to “parentify” their daughters, spoil them, and be very lenient Dads. They basically don’t parent or enforce rules or discipline. Too much to remember to do. [/quote]

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