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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would have asked why she is buying all these items as an opening to reset her expectations for how often it will get used. If she’s local this is really unnecessary! A pack n play is all that is helpful. She is clearly planning for it to get used at her house.

If she’s out of town and you plan to travel there frequently it is helpful but not if you’re local. [/quote]

Op here, that’s what I was thinking. That’s it’s unnecessary since we live so close to her.[/quote]

That is the opposite of what you should be thinking. I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt because you clearly haven’t had a baby before. There is SO. MUCH. STUFF you will need to lug about with you every time you leave the house. If you are out and about and happen to stop by your MIL’s, or even if you make a plan to go there and pack up everything you think you’ll need, babies are hugely unpredictable and it will be a GODSEND that your MIL has a bunch of stuff you like and use at her house. Seriously. Is it “necessary” for her to buy it? No. But it is a huge service for you that she is doing so. Babies don’t eat when you plan for them too. So you assume you won’t need, for example, a high chair at her house, but then child refuses to eat before you go and then you get there and have a screaming child on your hands you need to feed right then and there. Or baby gets overstimulated and suddenly needs a nap. Or you get there and realize you forgot the snack cup. Or a sippy cup. Or diapers. Or whatever. Babies are all encompassing. Sometimes you will forget things. I will never forget the time when my daughter was like a year old, we got on a 3-hour flight with her that then had a connection, and I realized as the plane door closed that I had accidentally packed all of our diapers and wipes (!!) in our checked bag.

OP you have no idea because you are new to this, but please trust everyone who is telling you that on its surface (assuming no huge problems with MIL otherwise) this is a very good thing. And if in the end if you never use any of it? Then you had peace of mind, and didn’t have to spend a cent of your own money for it.

And I’m not a MIL fwiw. I have two small children and chafed at my MIL in the beginning but now 10 years in I’m grateful for all the ways she has made visiting her house easier on us over the years.
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