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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mean is subjective.  What exactly are the girls and moms doing you find to be so mean, OP? [/quote]

- Excluding other girls
- Making fun of other girls or boys (verbally or in notes/pictures that are passed around the classroom)
- Telling kids not to play with or be friends with certain girls or boys.

It feels weird to be an adult referring to a 9 year old as a “mean girl.”  I don’t think they are bad kids.  They are just navigating the culture of the classroom in a way that works best for them.  
I don’t think the moms are bad people either.  They don’t deliberately set out to hurt people.  They just see the world in terms of these social hierarchies and are trying to come out on top.  
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I’m a high school teacher and to some degree all of these behaviors are typical and age appropriate all through k-12. (Excluding extremes such as bullying but that’s not what you’re describing.) [/quote]

They may be typical at a certain age, but using the word "appropriate" when it comes to them and saying they are not bullying is BS!!!!

Excluding, making fun of, or telling other kids not to play with a specific person is, in fact, classic bullying.

I would hate to know what you think qualifies as bullying.

Some teacher you must be.  The ultimate useless bystander.[/quote]

“ I guess so. I mean, if a kid is going out of their way to tease my child and tell her friends not to play with her, then I’m going to tell my kid not to be friends with her.”

If a child’s acting out because say of a divorce, and all parents this acting out child says this to their kids, guess who’s doing the excluding? The “nice” moms. Also probably gossiping about why that kid is so mean.

Oh did you call that classic bullying?[/quote]

I get what you are saying.  (Minus the moms gossiping about why a child is mean.  No one does this.)

If the child is acting out because of something going on in her life, that’s really difficult, and I feel for her.  If she was my therapy patient, I would do my best for her. 
But my daughter isn’t her therapist.  She’s just another second grader with her own sh!t to figure out.

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