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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just decided to be the best wife that I can, even if it doesn’t feel genuine.  I kiss him hello and make food he likes to eat and point out the good things he does to the kids, so they know what to emulate.  I ask for help when I need it, and I am really specific on what it is that I need from him.  I say please and thank you, and I give a lot of blowjobs.  
If I’m going to continue to be his wife, I might as well be good at it.  Just because he’s a crappy spouse doesn’t mean that I have to be. 
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I kind of wish you would do a spinoff thread because I am trying to do this but it makes me feel dead inside and depressed to care for and be loving towards someone who treats me like crap when he feels like it. You mentioned yours has anger issues too and I'm exhausted trying to walk on eggshells to prevent another unpredictable outburst. We have very young kids and I'm not yet financially stable, but the idea of my daughter selecting a partner who treats her similarly is terrifying and I could never get over that guilt. [b]So I'm working on trying to get financially stronger even though I will be much worse off financially even in the best case scenario.[/b] [/quote]

Don't wait too long. I didn't leave when my kid(s) were young in part because of finances. The truth is that my parents would have probably helped me and I could have gone back to a career even if it would have been hard. And my kids wouldn't have known anything different. Now that the oldest is in HS and we are staring down college the idea of striking out on my own seems impossible.[/quote]

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