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[quote=Anonymous]I have been stewing about this post all day.  The OP may not be listening anymore, but just in case...

I am about to spend a week with my judgmental in-laws.  They are all physicians, all genetically skinny, and all absolutely obsessed with food.  My SIL gave us Food, Inc. and Supersize Me and such for Christmas.  Food is their religion, their morality.  Sneering at overweight people is one of their favorite pastimes.

I am a different ethnicity, and the women have a lot of curves, and the men are broad-shouldered, barrel-chested, football player types.  When I was married, almost 20 years ago, I was 36-26-36, size 10.  When they were having me fitted for my ceremonial sari, my MIL told the dressmaker "she will need extra [i]extra[/i] large."  I was 5'6", 140 pounds, in perfect shape [i]for me[/i].  But my BMI would say I was borderline overweight.

I also have PCOS, like my sister, my mother, my aunts.  When my mother, a crunchy hippie who grew a garden, baked only whole grain bread, and never let refined sugar cross her children's lips, and who exercised daily, began to gain weight rapidly and grow hair in the wrong places and have erratic cycles, her doctors all told her it was because she was having too many kids and probably eating too much without noticing.  She ate less and less, exercised more and more, her periods ceased entirely, and no doctor listened to her pleas for help, because they all assumed she was just secretly pigging out.  It took her five years to get the correct diagnosis and the correct medications.

My aunt was not so lucky.  In addition to PCOS, she had Cushing's disease.  Google it, OP.  It wasn't until she was diagnosed with cancer that she got the correct diagnosis.  She's going to die pretty young.  Perhaps, if doctors hadn't ignored her rapid and unstoppable weight gain and assumed she was a glutton, that would not be the case.

For me, I GAIN weight after having babies.  While breastfeeding.  While starving and exercising every day.  While not getting to eat any simply carbohydrates.  I am currently a size 14 at two months postpartum, but my BMI is 31.8.  I have 50 pounds to lose.  At least I carry it well, perhaps?  So I don't offend your eyes too much?

Compassion.  Empathy.  Understanding.  My mother sat me down a few years ago when I wanted to give up.  She gently told me that I would have to work harder than everyone else just to maintain my weight, and that weight loss would be almost impossible.  But she begged for me to not give up, for the sake of my health.  Because in her case, it was too late.  She has many catastrophic health issues, all related to her undiagnosed PCOS.

So I deny myself and spend hours working out while dealing with my family's needs just so that you can see me and feel disgusted, OP.

Please, please do not inflict yourself on anyone else.  Find a new job ASAP.[/quote]

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