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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A man I started dating would text me tickets prices for a show we consider. Casually, like “tickets chat $X and $Y for drinks, so give it a thought”.   [b]First, I would split but not that early in a relationship as we are not exclusive.[/b] I see him active on OLD and so I am. Second, it’s a turn off for me romantically as I’m at point of my career and life where this price is very low and not worthy discussing. I just pay when I invite my girlfriends. I probably make more than him, but he’s high level in his career as well and certainly has better pension and medical insurance. I work longer hours.

Sexual attraction is there, he’s very handsome. But  Im not feeling romantic about him, it’s just a mental turn off that doesn’t allow relationship to grow. Shall I offer him to be a FWB, and both keep looking ? Explain why or just say I’m not feeling that ? [/quote]

Guy’s perspective: if you expect him to pay for everything in the early phases of your dating, then you’re treating it like a transaction. So I hope you’d sleep with him if a guy does pay for you. No down payment on future possibility, if you want him to pay 100% you need to offer something in return beyond your sweet smile. [/quote]

OP here: you didn’t read the whole thread- I already slept with him AND was reciprocating paying for some dates . But when someone texts me the cost of drinks it’s very petty, so I’m no longer interested in him romantically. [/quote]

PP. I did skim through all of it but went back to the beginning. I think you’re doing the right thing because he seems petty and too self focused. I wrote the above because the statement you made earlier came across as shallow so I was trying to turn it around for a situation where the guy WAS paying for everything, and would you feel you owed him something in return? Maybe I’m sensitive to this because I’m the kind of person who would be happy to pay for things but I’m not hot enough for a woman to want to sleep with me that soon, so am conscious of the dynamic I thought I heard from you. Or maybe I’m just jealous of a guy who isn’t keeping up his end but is still getting a hot woman to sleep with him. [/quote]

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