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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you focus on joint goals that you may not have achieved for now? For example, use your extra earnings to fully fund 529 plans, and get an agreement from him that in the event of divorce, they will be deemed assets of the children, managed by you? Maybe you live off your matched joint earnings and you invest your excess in accounts you control? [/quote]

This is exactly what I’m thinking. Except if our marriage breaks down I want to fully keep those accounts (not 529s) I control. [/quote]

I am a man.

In this scenario if you asked me for a post-nup at this point in our marriage when you start making bank, I would say no.

Then what?

Divorce seems obvious. You will pay alimony and a higher amount of child support. [/quote]

Child support, yes. Probably not alimony. You might as well spend your extra money on a nicer car for yourself, spa days, better clothes. [/quote]

Why can’t you do this while married?[/quote]

That’s the whole point. Enjoy it now. In a divorce half of the savings get split. [/quote]

It is not just the savings. The $120k DH earns and contributes will no longer be part of the HHI. OP will have to pay her own mortgage. Her Dh covers probably all necessities now.

I have a friend who got divorced over money. She bought a home and loved the freedom. She got laid off and going through her savings fast. I think she may lose her home. We know them and Dh is friends with the ex husband. I thought the ex would step up but he isn’t since she is the one who wanted to live it up.

College savings is the last thing on their minds now. The divorce screwed the kids up and kids will go to bad colleges or no college at all. Maybe they are just rebelling but the whole family just fell apart.[/quote]

Not all divorces are like that. I divorced but made sure kids financial benefits would be intact. Same rate of saving for college. Also both agreed all money goes to kids in the future of wealth we earned. That means in the tiny chance of a remarriage, an ironclad prenup. Your friend is where she is because she lost her job, and that could happen to anyone. Don't blame the divorce for that situation.

Ex and I are equal earners. We bought our marital home so one person could pay the mortgage. Our divorce did not have much financial impact...not like others. Our kids are completely fine.[/quote]

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