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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I call troll. If he's a PhD scientist then he's making at least $120k and so your making $360k. If you think that's insufficient for college, living expenses and retirement then why are you pregnant with a 2nd child? [/quote]

I never said I don’t think our combined HHI (you are spot on, btw) is inadequate, but [b]as we all know and lament, $240k is inadequate if your goal is 2 children and to pay for college and retirement in 2023. [/b]

I would love to work a job I liked better and that was less stressful and only make $120k, but it would mean making sacrifices I’m not willing to make (like not paying for college).

I feel my duty to provide for my family comes before my satisfaction in my career, and my husband does not.

And since I’m focused on earning, I’m going to be able to pay for college and then some, and I don’t feel like sharing the “and then some” with the person who put his passion above helping me provide for our kids if our marriage breaks down.

I won’t keep defending myself, but I’ll keep reading the other points of view and reflect on them. 
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It would be fine, if you’d started saving aggressively sooner. Why didn’t you do that? And more to the point: why are you hell-bent on blaming him for failing to do the thing you want him doing towards this goal (earning more) while failing to accept responsibility for the pieces of this in which *you* missed opportunities? Ex by saving more, sooner, for retirement and college.

It is LOL funny to be referring to this as a dispute about “values.” The differences you have here are in the margins.

You are unhappy with your life for some reason and blaming it on him. Fix your life.[/quote]

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