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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a HSYP grad at the age when my classmates and I have kids applying to college. I just saw a college drop off pic/post by one of my only college friends whose kid got accepted to our school. I know that the kids of several classmates of ours were rejected. I don't hold it against my one friend for posting those pics though. It was very tastefully done, with just a picture of mom and dad with kid standing in the dorm room with lots of boxes to unpack. We all recognized which dorm it was from the windows, which was fun. The message was about how excited they are and wishing her success. It wasn't a congratulations for kicking butt and getting accepted sort of post, which I think really matters.

What I really don't like to see are people posting to congratulate their kid for the 5+ acceptance letters from colleges that accept 75%+ of applicants. Big whoop. Even if they'd been accepted to a selective school, I wouldn't really want to hear about it. But I definitely don't want to be expected to play along with your little charade about what an amazing accomplishment it is to get into a college that accepts everyone who submits a complete application. We don't congratulate people for having signed up and joined the recreational soccer team for 12-yr-olds as if they'd won a coveted spot on the Olympic training squad. I might be happy about all the fun that kid will have playing soccer. But don't ask me to congratulate them. It sends a weird message to kids when we need them to get admitted to a college that is very difficult to get into. The emphasis should be on supporting them as they transition to college, not on the fact that they "won" a spot somewhere selective, or worse, pretending that they did when they didn't. [/quote]
This is super mean spirited.  Kids overcome all sorts of hurdles to even get into college at all, from learning disabilities, to trauma, to lower IQ or processing issues, to health issues, to mental health issues, to economic or family instabilities, or even to maturity.  Parents can be proud of their kid even for going to the local CC.  They may have "won" just by making it out of high school and choosing to try college.  Get off your HSYP high horse.  [/quote]

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