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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Boat wife, I remember your former threads.

I think I replied about a victim complex. I feel like you’re still not in a place of taking responsibility and of putting everything on him. It takes two to get into this place. How are you guys almost putting the house on the market if he didn’t get a yes/ok signal from you somewhere down the line? I’m getting the feeling from his responses that you were never totally transparent with him. Probably from fear of conflict. But that’s partly a dynamic you can change, and a dynamic you are partly responsible for.

You’re also very ambivalent about the relationship. You don’t want to leave or stay. I feel like neither of you has a very strong sense of self and this is preventing you from resolving your relationship issues.

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I agree with this entire post- OP is taking no ownership of her role in the dynamic whatsoever.  In her latest update she even says that she keeps telling her husband she’s not “ready” for the move— has she even made it clear to him that she doesn’t want to move at all?!?  From my reading of it he could reasonably think she is anxious and dragging her feet.

If you want to divorce, OP- then divorce!![/quote]

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